Love & Frustration…
Marriage is a beautiful journey, but let’s be honest—it’s not always smooth sailing. Sometimes, the person you love most is also the one who can frustrate you the most. When communication starts to break down, love can turn into anger, and frustration can disrupt the peace of your home. Harsh words are said in moments of weakness—words that neither of you truly mean but that still leave a sting. And even though those words don’t erase the love you have for each other, they can build walls between you, making it harder to connect.
So, how do you move past it? How do you restore the love and companionship that once felt effortless?
The truth is, love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a choice. And sometimes, that choice means putting in the work to reignite the connection that life’s stresses have dulled. In my opinion, when things get messy, when annoyance takes over, and when you start seeing a side of your spouse that feels unfamiliar, it’s time to get back to the basics. It’s time to start dating your spouse again.
Rediscovering Each Other
Think back to the beginning of your relationship—the excitement, the butterflies, the endless conversations about everything and nothing. You made time for each other, you laughed more, and you prioritized the connection. But over time, responsibilities, stress, and routine can steal that spark, leaving behind only the logistics of life.
Rekindling that fire doesn’t mean waiting for things to magically get better. It means making an intentional effort to reconnect:
- Go on dates again. Step away from the routine and carve out time just for the two of you. It doesn’t have to be extravagant—just meaningful.
- Have real conversations. Not just about bills, work, or the kids, but about dreams, feelings, and memories. Remind each other why you fell in love.
- Be affectionate. A simple touch, a hug, or a kiss for no reason at all can go a long way in breaking down emotional barriers.
- Show appreciation. Sometimes, we forget to acknowledge the little things. Saying "thank you" and recognizing each other's efforts can shift the energy in your relationship.
Fighting for What Matters
A relationship worth keeping is one you have to work at and fight for. Love doesn’t mean never arguing or never feeling frustrated—it means choosing to come back to each other, even when things are hard. It means not letting pride or resentment win. It means remembering that even in the worst moments, your spouse is still the person you love.
No marriage is perfect, and disagreements are inevitable. But if both of you are willing to put in the effort, to communicate better, and to prioritize your connection, you can move past the frustrations and grow even stronger together.
Love is still there. It just needs a little tending to.
XOXO Kaye,